Book Review: How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart By Meggan Roxanne

by Irene Roth, Blog Editor/Writer

This is one of the best books that I picked up this year about self-compassion and self-love. It is a book that will help you look at your patterns of self-hatred and self-doubt in a brand-new way.

Life is quite complicated for everyone. Our well-being depends on maintaining healthy relationships, keeping up with the constant life forces both within and without, and prioritizing our well-being. It’s so easy to get distracted and lose sight of our true path, until one day we realize we’re completely lost, trapped in a cycle of self-sabotage and people pleasing.

If you feel this way, believe me, you’re not alone. Meggan Roxanne shows that we all have times when we self-sabotage ourselves and don’t honor our needs and wants. We all have times when we know what our heart is telling us, but we silence it by not listening. But these are all ways that we break our own heart.

Meggan Roxanne is no stranger to struggling with her mental health. She has dealt with anxiety and depression. Over time, she discovered what caused her mental health struggles was that she didn’t honor her values and beliefs. Instead, people pleasing and self-sabotage took center stage.

We all struggle with people pleasing to one degree or another. We all have times in our lives when we overdo it and don’t take care of ourselves. We all speak to ourselves as if we are enemies but not best friends. We all struggle with self-love, which Meggan Roxanne believes should be a non-negotiable in our life.

In this book, Meggan Roxanne shows us how to cultivate self-compassionate and become our best friend. She shows us how to honor ourselves and prioritize our needs daily. She also shows us how to avoid toxic relationships, because when we settle into connections that are hurtful to our self-esteem, we are also breaking our own heart.

This book is a powerful testament to the fact that we can take our power back. We can learn to love ourselves unconditionally, even when we make mistakes. We can appreciate who we are and not criticize ourselves all the time through negative self-talk or not listening to our intuition. We can get into the driver’s seat of our life and take control of it.

This is a beautifully written book. I recommend it to anyone in the Fibromates community because we can be so hard on ourselves. I know I am. Since I’ve been diagnosed with fibromyalgia over twenty-five years ago, my self-esteem has really taken a hit. One reason for this is because I can’t do and be as much as I was. And I have a really hard time accepting this. I’m getting better, but it’s still a struggle.  

Over the years, I have come to believe that self-care and self-love should be two of the most important things in our self-care toolbox to manage the physical and psychological symptoms of fibromyalgia. We don’t always have to overdo it to love ourselves. We are worthy just as we are, even if we feel less than we were before because of our pain and fatigue. We are the same beautiful person inside. Let’s honor ourselves by being kind to ourselves and not breaking our own heart.

Comments

  1. Fibromyalgia Support Network says:

    Hi Kelly,

    Thank you so much for stopping by and reading my blog.

    I’m so glad you were able to take something valuable from the piece.

    Take care,
    Irene

  2. Fibromyalgia Support Network says:

    Hi Shelley,

    Sorry for the delay in my response to you.

    It’s a new book, so probably it won’t be on Libby.

    But it should be available at your local library.

    It’s a GREAT book!! I really learned so much as a result of reading it.

    Thank you for stopping by, Shelley!
    Irene

  3. Shelley Sannuto says:

    This rings so true I would love to read this book. Can you tell me where it is available and how to get it?

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