Month: October 2024

by Irene Roth, Blog Editor/Writer

For many who live with fibromyalgia, it can feel like a daily overwhelming challenge, leaving us frustrated, isolated, and exhausted. In a society that often emphasizes productivity and perfection, living with an unpredictable illness like fibromyalgia can create feelings of inadequacy and self-judgment. However, embracing fibromyalgia can lead to a more compassionate and understanding relationship with ourselves. This journey, while difficult, offers the opportunity to foster self-compassion, build resilience, and redefine personal strength.

The first step in embracing fibromyalgia is shifting from a mindset of resistance to one of acceptance. This doesn’t mean giving up on the hope of improvement or resigning ourselves to a life of pain and fatigue. Instead, acceptance is about recognizing the reality of our condition without judgment or blame. When we stop fighting against our own bodies, we create space for both physical and emotional healing.

By accepting fibromyalgia as part of our experience, we acknowledge that pain and limitations are not reflections of our self-worth. It allows us to focus on what we need, rather than constantly trying to meet external expectations. Embracing our condition helps us to listen to our bodies, recognize our limits, and practice self-care in ways that promote well-being. Through acceptance, we begin the journey of self-compassion.

Here are a few ways to embrace your fibromyalgia and not fight it.

First, shift how you approach your daily life. Some days may be harder than others. Therefore, it’s essential to give yourself permission to rest without feeling guilty. On days when you feel limited by your symptoms, practicing self-compassion means acknowledging that you are doing the best you can with the circumstances you are in. This act of kindness toward yourself can relieve the pressure to always be strong or perfect. It instead allows you to be human.

Second, try to manage your expectations and set boundaries on those harder days. Embracing fibromyalgia requires that you set realistic expectations for yourself. Chronic conditions often come with fluctuations in symptoms, which can make it difficult to predict how you will feel from one day to the next. Being compassionate with yourself involves recognizing these fluctuations and adjusting your goals and plans accordingly. You may not be able to do everything you once did or participate in every social event, but setting boundaries allows you to prioritize your health and not push past your limits.

Third, redefine your conventional ideas of strength and resilience. In a culture that often equates strength with endurance and pushing through pain, those of us living with fibromyalgia may feel weak or incapable. However, embracing fibromyalgia teaches you that true strength lies in being vulnerable and resilient. Vulnerability need not mean that you’re not resilient. In fact, it is in being vulnerable that you can be more resilient. Strength is not about ignoring pain or pushing yourself beyond your limits. Instead, it’s about learning to navigate your life with grace and self-compassion, despite the challenges you face. This type of resilience allows you to approach life with more flexibility and adaptability, making it easier to handle setbacks without falling into self-criticism.

Fourth, embrace your whole self. Fibromyalgia is just one part of who you are, and it can offer profound lessons about self-care, patience, and compassion. When you embrace your condition, you can make room for growth, healing, and understanding. Instead of seeing fibromyalgia as something that holds you back, you can see it as an opportunity to connect with yourself on a deeper level.

Therefore, embracing fibromyalgia teaches us that self-compassion is not a luxury but a necessity. It reminds you that our worth is not tied to your productivity, your pain does not diminish your worth, and your struggles do not define you. By accepting your condition and treating yourself with kindness, you can cultivate a life that honors both your challenges and your resilience. Through self-compassion, you can navigate the complexities of chronic illness with grace, patience, and love.

by Irene Roth, Blog Editor/Writer

This is one of the best books that I picked up this year about self-compassion and self-love. It is a book that will help you look at your patterns of self-hatred and self-doubt in a brand-new way.

Life is quite complicated for everyone. Our well-being depends on maintaining healthy relationships, keeping up with the constant life forces both within and without, and prioritizing our well-being. It’s so easy to get distracted and lose sight of our true path, until one day we realize we’re completely lost, trapped in a cycle of self-sabotage and people pleasing.

If you feel this way, believe me, you’re not alone. Meggan Roxanne shows that we all have times when we self-sabotage ourselves and don’t honor our needs and wants. We all have times when we know what our heart is telling us, but we silence it by not listening. But these are all ways that we break our own heart.

Meggan Roxanne is no stranger to struggling with her mental health. She has dealt with anxiety and depression. Over time, she discovered what caused her mental health struggles was that she didn’t honor her values and beliefs. Instead, people pleasing and self-sabotage took center stage.

We all struggle with people pleasing to one degree or another. We all have times in our lives when we overdo it and don’t take care of ourselves. We all speak to ourselves as if we are enemies but not best friends. We all struggle with self-love, which Meggan Roxanne believes should be a non-negotiable in our life.

In this book, Meggan Roxanne shows us how to cultivate self-compassionate and become our best friend. She shows us how to honor ourselves and prioritize our needs daily. She also shows us how to avoid toxic relationships, because when we settle into connections that are hurtful to our self-esteem, we are also breaking our own heart.

This book is a powerful testament to the fact that we can take our power back. We can learn to love ourselves unconditionally, even when we make mistakes. We can appreciate who we are and not criticize ourselves all the time through negative self-talk or not listening to our intuition. We can get into the driver’s seat of our life and take control of it.

This is a beautifully written book. I recommend it to anyone in the Fibromates community because we can be so hard on ourselves. I know I am. Since I’ve been diagnosed with fibromyalgia over twenty-five years ago, my self-esteem has really taken a hit. One reason for this is because I can’t do and be as much as I was. And I have a really hard time accepting this. I’m getting better, but it’s still a struggle.  

Over the years, I have come to believe that self-care and self-love should be two of the most important things in our self-care toolbox to manage the physical and psychological symptoms of fibromyalgia. We don’t always have to overdo it to love ourselves. We are worthy just as we are, even if we feel less than we were before because of our pain and fatigue. We are the same beautiful person inside. Let’s honor ourselves by being kind to ourselves and not breaking our own heart.